“Here's The RIGHT Way To Make Behavior Charts Work With Your 4 to 8-Year-Old Son Or Daughter AT Home...”
I'll Show You The Exact Steps & Techniques To Get Behavior Charts To Work With Your School-Aged Kids At Home...(And Which WRONG STUFF To Avoid...) Even If You've "Tried Everything" In The Past To Get Them To Behave And It Hasn't Worked...
Dear Frustrated Mom,
Does your house feel like a war-zone sometimes? You keep hoping it'll change, but your kids keep talking back and yelling when you try to get them to do even the "simplest little thing"...like put their toys away or come to the dinner table?
Do you sometimes dread when 3 o'clock rolls around and you know your kids will be home from school? You know they're going to be whiney and cranky - and that you're going to get in *yet another* fight about getting their homework done?
Have you ever felt like a "bad mom" because your kids' behavior got you so mad that you were "pushed you over the edge" and you actually shocked yourself by what you yelled or said to them?
Is it embarrassing to see how quickly your little kids can push your buttons and get you so full of rage that you feel like you might "snap" and do something you'll really regret - that might even scar your kids for life?
Is the bad behavior from your kids creating tension and arguments with other family members? It can be especially challenging when you and your husband have different ideas about how to discipline your kids, so that makes it even *more* stressful?
Is your self-esteem dropping because your child talks back to you, disrespects you, and says things like, "I hate you, Mommy!" Or "Go away!"
Do you sometimes feel like you're on the verge of a breakdown because you're so overwhelmed with the stress of trying to deal with your child's temper tantrums and bad behavior?
You're NOT alone.
I've heard from thousands of moms who are raising small kids that they're going through those exact types of things...every day.
They'd all had the experience of feeling frustrated with how their kids were behaving, trying something to change the behavior, and then watching the behavior stay the same or even get worse.
And what makes it all the more frustrating is that no matter what you do, it doesn't seem to make ANY LASTING DIFFERENCE AT ALL!
This can make you feel helpless about ever being able to enjoy parenting again. I mean, if you can't even "get it right" when your kids are 4, 5, or 6 years old...how are you going to be able to handle the stuff that comes up when they're teenagers, right?
It can start feeling pretty discouraging...
But is that the REAL truth?
Can you, as a parent, do something that will actually make a difference and bring about better behavior in your child?
Are you doomed to a life of power struggles, tantrums, disobedience, and talking back?
Is there any hope?
Why Some Kids Misbehave and Others Don't…
When your child is misbehaving, it's not a fun feeling.
But an even worse feeling is not KNOWING WHY.
Of course other people's opinions about this aren't very helpful…
They'll usually make blanket generalizations that make you feel defensive. They'll say contradictory things too, like…
- “You're too lenient with him.”
- “You're too strict with her.”
- “He's just got a bad attitude.”
- “She's just being a brat.”
- “Boys will be boys.”
- “She's just behaving that way for attention.”
But I'll let you in on a couple of secrets…the first of which you might already know:
- Those statements above do not fit for every child in every situation of misbehaving, in every case. And thinking that way about your child will rarely, if ever, lead you to a solution that feels good to you and your child.
- Deep down, your child does not want to be misbehaving…and your child would LOVE to have things be less stressful and more peaceful at home. Your child wants you to be happy with him.
Trust me on this. In my years as an elementary school teacher I worked with hundreds of children…and while some children took longer to change their behaviors than others, all the kids who changed their behavior were happier once they did.
Why? Because they weren't getting in trouble anymore! They felt good about what they doing and what they were getting done. They had a better relationship with the other kids in the classroom and their relationship with me as their teacher was better too.
It's embarrassing to admit that I used to believe in some of those blanket statements I mentioned above. I used to believe that a boy would be more rowdy in class just because he was a boy. I used it as an excuse for their behavior, but that didn't help me solve the problem of misbehavior…
Boys do not misbehave because they're boys. Girls do not misbehave because they're girls.
So why do some kids misbehave and other kids BEHAVE LIKE ANGELS?
Let me let you in on another little secret…
The Secret Reason Your Child is Misbehaving
Here's what I've discovered…
The short reason for why your child is misbehaving is because her needs are not getting met…
I'm not talking about needing a new bike, or needing a new video game. I'm talking about core needs for understanding, respect, being heard, feeling safe, independence, and other important human needs that we ALL have - even as adults.
When kids feel like their needs are going unheard or unmet, they will do whatever they can (like we do as adults) to get them met and express their feelings. (Kids don't usually censor their feelings like most adults do.)
So when kids are misbehaving, they're just doing the best that they can to try to meet these important needs of theirs. Even not wanting to get dressed in the morning is usually coming from an attempt to get a need for independence met.
They're trying to have some control of what happens in their lives and it comes out in the form of what looks to us like misbehavior. Kids don't have lots of resources and ideas for how to get what they want, so they do what they know how to do: they yell, they say NO, they cry, they whine, they stomp their feet.
So what can you do to help your child stop whining, stomping feet, and throwing tantrums?
You can use behavior charts…
Behavior charts are intended to help kids learn alternatives to their current bad behaviors. Instead of whining, your child can practice and learn to speak with their normal voice when they want something or are expressing an opinion.
But using behavior charts isn't always a piece of cake. There are pitfalls that you have to watch out for. Below are 5 of the most common mistakes I see parents making when they're using behavior charts.
Are you making any of them?
5 Mistakes Most Parents Make When Using Behavior Charts With Their Kids
Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these mistakes prevent parents from seeing their childs' behavior improve. If you can avoid these behavior chart mistakes, you'll be in much better shape...
Mistake #5:
Focusing on what you want kids to STOP doing.
One of my 3rd graders used to run in the hallways. Naturally, I would tell him, “Chris, don't run in the hallway.” Did he listen to me? Yes. He stopped running - and then guess what he did…
He started skipping!
After seeing this, I realized that it wasn't his fault that he was skipping in the hallway. He was following my instructions perfectly. He stopped running. That's all I had requested of him when I said, “Don't run in the hallway.”
This interaction made it crystal clear to me that if we want children to have better behavior, we have to tell them exactly what we DO WANT TO SEE THEM DOING.
It's hard to stop a familiar behavior if we don't have something else to do instead. So it's not enough that you tell your child what you don't want him to do. You have to focus on what you DO want him to do.
With Chris, I started him on a behavior chart that afternoon and at the top of the chart, it said, “Walk in the hallways.” Each time I saw that he walked in the hallways, he would get to mark his chart. It wasn't long before he was walking calmly in line with the rest of the class and we were able to discontinue the behavior chart.
Mistake #4:
Ignoring The Pygmalion Effect
Not knowing about the Pygmalion effect (and using it to your advantage) is one of the biggest downfalls parents make when using behavior charts with their kids.
So what is the Pygmalion effect?
In a nutshell, it states that children who are expected to do well and are seen as good kids, perform and behave better. Kids who are expected to do poorly or are seen as “bad kids” will behave worse.
Not rocket science, right? But it's so powerful!
This was discovered when teachers were given a fresh class of students and were told that the kids were all good kids who were smart and well-behaved.
Guess what? They were actually the kids who other teachers had labeled as problem kids, but because the new teacher SAW THEM AS GOOD KIDS, she treated them with respect and expected great things out of them. The kids followed suit and became some of the best behaved kids in the school. In fact, their progress DOUBLED in one school year.
Why is this important for you to pay attention as a parent? Because when your child has been misbehaving over and over, you can start to feel frustrated and irritated with your child. You may start to see him as a child who is out of control, undisciplined, rude, etc.
But seeing your child that way is only going to make things worse. In order to effect change with your child, you need to start applying the Pygmalion effect. Find the inherent goodness in your child and treat your child as if they are star children. It may feel like pretending in the beginning, but that star child is in there, waiting for you to recognize her.
Yes, your child is misbehaving. But you need to stop seeing your child as a bad kid or a kid who is defiant, rude, or out of control. In order for the behavior charts to work, you have to be on the same team as your child. And if you're seeing him as the bad one, that makes the playing field unbalanced.
In this manual, I'll also tell you about two more effects that can double and even TRIPLE the speed and effectiveness of the Pygmalion effect when you use them together.
Mistake #3:
Wanting Your Child To Be “Good”
I know, I know. Of course you want your child to be good. But wanting your child to be good rarely leads to it actually happening. After all, you've been wanting your child to be good this whole time and it hasn't happened to your satisfaction yet, right? You're still dealing with behaviors that you don't like.
It's not that a good child isn't an acceptable thing to want. It totally fine to want your child to be good. But you also need to start thinking in terms of what actually works to get the results that you want.
Think about this…
Can you imagine what would happen if you went into a real estate agent's office and when she asked you what kind of house you were looking for, you told her, “We're looking for a ‘good’ house?”
The realtor would have no idea what kind of house you're actually looking for. “Good” is just an open-ended description. So she wouldn't know whether you thought 4 bedrooms was good or 1 bedroom was good. Or a house downtown vs. a house in the mountains on 5 acres.
So if you were buying a house and wanted to get the house that you really wanted, you'd be specific and say things like, “I want a 4 bedroom, 3 bath house with a fence and an island kitchen. I want it to be away from busy roads. And I want the house to have hardwood floors downstairs.”
You can probably see how this applies to you and your child now…
Wanting your child to be good is just too generic and broad. It doesn't give you or your child any indication of what specifically you're looking for.
When you're using behavior charts with your child, you MUST BE SPECIFIC with the behavior that you want. If you're too broad or generic you and your child will BOTH be frustrated. (Don't worry - there's a whole section of the manual that will help you select appropriate and specific behaviors to use on the behavior charts.)
Mistake #2:
Holding On To the Resentment
Did you know that if you put a frog in cold water and put it on the stove and turn the burner on high that eventually the frog will just die in there? Even when the water starts boiling, the frog won't jump out.
But if you put a frog in a pot of water that is already boiling, the frog will instantly try to jump back out.
Why doesn't the first frog jump out of the slowly heating pot of water? Because it comes on gradually and the frog gets acclimated to the temperature as it rises.
This is probably a lot like what you experience with the resentment and frustration that you're dealing with in your home. And just like the frog in that pot, you're slowly killing yourself by getting accustomed to all the resentment and frustration that are building up inside of you.
In order to shift this so that you take better care of yourself and your child, you need to start doing something to reverse all the resentment. One great approach for this is to start with gratitude.
You may have heard about people keeping “gratitude journals,” where you write down 5 things you're grateful for each night before bed. I've done that before and it can be a really nice thing to do…
But when you're dealing with difficult behaviors in your child, the gratitude journal that you need to keep is more specific. This gratitude journal is only about your child and it's only about things you appreciate about him.
This may feel like pulling teeth in the beginning. It may be really hard to look back and find something from earlier in the day that you appreciate about your child, but the harder it is for you to do it, the more you need it. Believe me.
When I was teaching 3rd grade, I would force myself to find things that I was grateful for related to the kids who misbehaved the most. It really helped me with the Pygmalion effect that I mentioned above.
Do this STARTING TODAY. Even if you do nothing else and you never even use a behavior chart…start writing down 5 things each day that you appreciate about your child. Don't just think about them. Take 2 minutes to actually write them down. This little action - although it may feel awkward at first - will make a huge difference in your relationship with your child.
Mistake #1:
Using Behavior Charts Without Figuring Out The RIGHT Way To Use Them...
Don't be fooled by their appearance. While behavior charts can LOOK very basic and elementary, they are actually a little complicated. I don't say this to scare you. Making cookies without a recipe can seem complicated too, even if you know the ingredients that are supposed to be in them.
But if you follow the instructions for using behavior charts that I've put together in my new manual Behavior Charts to the Rescue you'll have the recipe so that you can make them work the right way.
I can't tell you how many parents have started using behavior charts without having any guidance and without reading any details about how to use them. Then in a few days they give up on the charts and declare, “Behavior charts don't work!”
Don't be like those parents…
Even if you have a general idea about how behavior charts work and can be used, don't stop there. There is much more to being successful with behavior charts than just putting a sticker on the chart every now and then.
Remember, the charts may look simple and cute, but there is more to making them work effectively than you probably realize.
For instance: Did you know that it's possible to select the wrong behavior chart to use with your child? Yep. Not all charts will work for all kids. And there are 2 important criteria that I'll share with you in the manual for making sure that you're using the right behavior chart for the job.
Did you get some good ideas from stuff to AVOID in those mistakes above? I hope so because they're powerful tips and techniques that are all about helping you avoid the wrong stuff so you can actually DO the right stuff.
Why Should I Care About What Miss Mona Has To Say About Behavior Charts?
I'd be wondering the same thing if I were you. So let me tell you a little bit about myself…
All my life I knew that I wanted to be a teacher. So when I graduated high school there was no question about what I was going to study in college. After I graduated from the University of South Florida with my degree in Elementary Education, I couldn't wait to get started for my first year of teaching.
But my college classes couldn't possibly have prepared me for being in a room filled with 33 seven- and eight-year-olds who all had their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies.
After the first week, I knew there were going to be some kids who would need some extra assistance in staying on task and managing their behaviors so that they and the rest of the class could learn without interruption.
So I started using behavior charts to keep track of the new behaviors we wanted to work on, but because there weren't any comprehensive books out there about how to use behavior charts successfully, I started my own process of trial and error.
It took patience and perseverance, but finally I discovered what worked and what didn't. Pretty soon, everyone was moving along smoothly in my class, and even the kids who struggled with their behavior the previous year were starting to feel more in control of themselves and proud of their accomplishments.
My classes were often complimented by other teachers and staff as they were walking in the hallways. If a staff member walked through our classroom unannounced in the middle of the day they would comment about how great it was to see that all the kids were on-task and working together.
Parents with kids in lower grades would put in special requests to the principal in an attempt to get their kids into my class because they heard about how much success the kids coming out of my classes had.
My use of behavior charts when they were appropriate had a lot to do with the praise and reputation that I got over the years. Thanks to the behavior charts, my “problem kids” stopped being problem kids and we all got to enjoy the school year together.
So for the last 11 years, I've been using behavior charts and helping others implement them successfully with their children and students. In that time, I've figured out what works and what doesn't work in the real world. I've discovered what makes behavior charts difficult to use and how to make them easy to use.
I did it out of desperation and necessity - with a first-year class of 33 students, it was essential that I nip the bad behavior in the bud so that everyone (including the students who were misbehaving) could have an equal chance to be happy, have fun, and learn.
I know that you want to make a difference in your child's behavior and in the quality of your home life too. That's why you're reading this right now…
Something has to be done about the behaviors you're dealing with at home. You know that you owe it to yourself, your misbehaving child, and anyone else who lives at home with you to figure out a way to coexist together peacefully and enjoy each other's company with mutual respect, love, and understanding…
And you're willing to give behavior charts a chance because you know that I'm going to be guiding you through it with this practical manual: Behavior Charts To The Rescue - Save Yourself From Bad Behavior And Get Your Kids To Behave Like The Angels They Actually Are.
A Closer Look At Behavior Charts To The Rescue…
There are oodles of books out there on how to deal with behaviors that you don't like. Books on discipline and theories about how to be better parents, but in my research, I haven't found any resources that gave detailed instructions about how parents can use behavior charts as a way to get better behavior.
And of the books that I DID FIND on behavior modification (a fancy way of saying “behavior change”), some of them cost over $100.00! Why? Because they're psychology textbooks with very scientific approaches that would probably be difficult, (and boring!) to read through. I even found one book that had close to 700 pages. Ugh.
I know you don't have time to read through 700 pages of psychology jargon…
And you've already read other books on parenting that gave you plenty of theories but not a lot of practical things that you could grab on to and start using easily…
So when I wrote Behavior Charts To The Rescue, I filled the 98 pages with as much practical information as I could that you could use right away. I wanted to create an easy-to-read manual that would help you and other parents…
- End the confusion about how to use behavior charts with your kids at home.
- Have a resource you can access immediately after you order because it's an INSTANT DOWNLOAD that you can read on the computer.
- Stay consistent with using behavior charts so that they can be truly effective. I know you can forget sometimes, so I'll share things to do that will help you remember and keep track of your behavior chart usage.
- Feel empowered about changing the constant talking back, nagging, tantrums, and defiance. You CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
- Understand the value of “catching your child being good” so that you can start turning things around in your home immediately
- Stop feeling embarrassed by your child's behavior in front of your family, friends, and peers…
- Do your part to help your child find success as a child so that they can grow up to be responsible teens and adults and stay out of trouble with the law.
- Understand the basics of behavior change in children so that you not only know what to do, but you understand WHY the things I'm suggesting work. This information will go a long way with using behavior charts too.
- Bring about changes in your child's behavior without feeling like you're going through an uphill battle by asserting power over your child and then feeling like a bad guy.
- Start feeling like a good parent again.
- Know how to use behavior charts with more than one child at a time in your home.
- Bring about simple changes in yourself that can significantly impact the behavior of your child. Implementing these simple changes can help you feel more empowered in your relationship with your child instead of feeling like you're at her mercy.
- Be proud of your kids again.
- Know how to select the perfect rewards to use with the behavior charts so that your child stays interested and engaged with the charts…and so that you don't break the bank. You don't have to spend a lot of money for rewards to be effective.
- Discover the difference between rewarding your child and bribing your child. If you don't know the critical difference between these two things, you can find yourself in frequent power struggles with your child. Are you afraid your child may start saying that he'll only do the stuff you want if you give him something in return? That's blackmail - and I'll show you how to make sure that never happens.
- Learn to discipline your child without having to be the “bad guy” all the time. With the approach in this manual, you get to be on your child's team working together toward better behavior and you don't have to be “on patrol” all the time.
- Rediscover the “good child” who's being masked by all these bad behaviors. As you start working with the behaviors one at a time you'll start finding more joy and love toward your child again instead of just frustration and helplessness.
- Really “get” the purpose of behavior charts and how you can make them work to your advantage by knowing the things to do and the things to avoid when you're using them at home. I went through all the trial and error so that you don't have to now.
- And much more…
So this manual that I've put together, Behavior Charts To The Rescue, gives you all the essential information about using behavior charts with none of the fluff, jargon, or complicated psychology…
In fact, at this writing, it appears to be the first and only book out there specifically designed to teach parents how to use behavior charts effectively at home.
What This Manual Isn't
While this manual is full of powerful information that will make using behavior charts so much easier for you, there are certain things that this manual absolutely will not do, so it's important that you know these things about the manual…
- It's not a magic pill that will instantly fix the behavior issues that you're dealing with. You're going to have to put this stuff into practice in order to see the results that you want.
- It's not a book about controlling your child or being more forceful with your child.
- It's not a book that is going to lay all sorts of guilt and shame on you for the way that you've raised your child so far. No parent does everything perfectly. We're going to meet you where you are and make progress from there.
- It's a not 400-700 page book like the ones listed on Amazon that are written for psychology majors and people who are used to reading scientific literature
- It's not a manual that will teach you how to discipline your child. This book is about using behavior charts to reward new behaviors that you want to see in your child. If you're looking for a discipline plan, this is not the book for you. Although, as you'll learn in the book, installing new, desired behaviors is possibly the most effective way to permanently bring unwanted behaviors to an end.
- It's not a book full of theories that don't have practical application in your home life.
- It's not a book that will help you if you only read a few pages, or don't finish it. In order to see the changes in your child's behavior you have to be willing to take some action and put the ideas into practice.
What Will I Learn In This Manual?
So now that we've reviewed what's NOT going to happen when you read the manual, here are some of the goodies that you WILL find when you read the book…
- The inside scoop on what's REALLY required in order to get behavior charts working FOR you…so that you can see better behavior from your child within 30 days.
- A critical mistake parents make that will destroy your chances of getting behavior from your child.
- The pitfalls of thinking in terms of "chore charts" and what you should be thinking about instead.
- How the way you describe your child and see your child will make all the difference in whether or not you're able to bring about changes in his behavior.
- How making use of “The Pygmalion Effect” and two other vitally important effects can help you make leaps and bounds toward better behavior in your home.
- A 9-word phrase that will revolutionize the way you talk to your child - and help you get positive changes more rapidly.
- What your child's first two years of life have to do with helping your child change his behaviors now.
- Why it's essential that you find similarities between you and your child - beyond the fact that you both like ice cream, movies, or purple.
- The specific things to say when you're using behavior charts with your children
- How to make sure you're not using the wrong behavior chart with your child. (Yes, it is possible to pick the wrong one.)
- A simple technique for making sure your child feels a sense of ownership of the behavior chart - so that you don't have to chase them around trying to get them to use it.
- Instructions for discovering your child's ‘Love Language’ so that you can select rewards that are meaningful to the child and make your child more interested in keeping up with the charts. (You don't have to spend a lot of money or use junk food as rewards - I promise.)
- 53 low-cost rewards that you and your child can choose from when you're selecting a reward to go with the behavior chart completion.
- The exact words to use if your child wants a big reward that isn't something you're willing or able to do. (Don't worry - It doesn't involve saying, "Okay, whatever you want."
- How to use your child's love of video games to your advantage when using behavior charts with him.
- How to reconcile the rules or consequences that you already have in place in your home with the use of a new behavior chart
- The absolute WORST thing you can do when your child misbehaves after completing her behavior chart…and what to do instead.
- Tricks and techniques for staying organized and on top of things when you're using behavior charts with more than one of your children at home.
- The top 2 places to put your child's behavior chart so that it gets used on a daily basis…
- The #1 thing to avoid when you're using behavior charts with more than one of your children at a time - otherwise it will all fall apart.
- 10 mistakes that parents make when using behavior charts and what you can do instead so that you don't find yourself in these difficult situations
- Why trying to motivate your child to change his actions can backfire on you, and what you need to do instead…
- A ridiculously simple exercise that will take you from angry to calm in less than 6 seconds.
- A voice technique to use when when asking your child questions about his behavior chart that will prevent him from being defensive.
- How keeping a simple promise will help your child stay committed to the process of changing his behavior for the good.
- What to do when you notice that your level of commitment to using behavior charts is dwindling…and how to get back on the saddle again.
- What to do when it seems like the charts aren't working and you're not seeing the progress that you want to be seeing
- 10 powerful questions you can ask yourself to get a better understanding of why your child is misbehaving in the first place
- How to help your child see you as someone that he wants to listen to and cooperate with, rather than argue and talk back to.
- A 4-minute exercise to help you figure out which behavior to tackle first...and help you avoid working on the wrong behavior.
- Why punishing your child is only making things worse by driving them toward more and more bad behavior…and what you can do to turn this cycle around. Don't worry…it doesn't involve bribing or money.
- A scientific phenomenon that explains why some kids seem to skate through life without a lot of problems and other kids seem like they're always getting in trouble...and how you can use it to your advantage.
- The important difference between rewards and bribes…and how you can make sure that you're not getting sucked into a cycle of bribing your child to do what you want them to do. Believe me - behavior that comes from bribes doesn't last and you DO NOT want to get into a situation where your child is saying, “I'll only share my toys with my baby brother if you take me to McDonald's.” This is blackmail!
Who Needs This Manual?
This manual is intended for parents and care takers of of kids 4-8 who want improve their children's behavior using behavior charts. If you're not sure if this manual is for you, check out this list below and see if you recognize yourself in the descriptions. You need this book…
- If you find yourself dreading the end of the school day because your child will be back at home with you…
- If you find yourself saying things like, “How many times do I have to tell you…,” or “Don't make me have to ask you again…”
- If you hear yourself complaining to yourself, your spouse, your friends, or your family about how your child is behaving…
- If you're embarrassed by the way your child behaves in public or when you have company over. (Or you're so embarrassed that you don't even have company over anymore.)
- If you're getting calls or notes from school telling you about how your child is getting in trouble and not getting along with others.
- If your child is on medication for ADHD and you're still not seeing the changes that you want to see
- If you're thinking about putting your child on medication for his behaviors but you want to make sure you've given non-drug approaches a fair shot first
- If you feel like a failure as a parent because you can't get your child under control and make them behave like a “normal” child
- If you have tried using behavior charts before but it seemed like they didn't work
- If you value doing things right the first time
- If you don't feel at ease and a sense of comfort in being in your home when all your children are home at the same time…
- If you're worried about what's going to happen as your child grows up if he doesn't change his behaviors
- If you're outraged that your child would have the nerve to talk to you the way that she does…
- If you're a professional who works with families that are struggling with behavior issues in school aged children…
- If you and your spouse argue about what to do about your child's behavior…
- If your other children are complaining about how your “problem child” is behaving
- If your household feels out of control and you wish you could run away and take a long vacation by yourself…
- If you've heard that behavior charts could help but you're not exactly sure how to make the best use out of them and use them correctly
- If you secretly think to yourself sometimes that you hate your child or wish you could give her to someone else who could handle her better…
- If you feel like a bad parent…
- If you're waiting for your child to outgrow the behaviors that you don't like, you could really benefit from this guide.
Who Doesn't Need This Manual?
While this manual can help most parents who are dealing with behavior issues from their 4-8 year old, there are some parents who will not benefit from reading this manual...
- If you have kids who always do things the first time they're asked to do something, you don't need this book.
- If your friends are asking you for advice about how they can get their kids to be as well-behaved as yours are, you don't need this information.
- If you aren't worried about how your child is talking back, misbehaving, and getting in trouble at school, this manual will be of no use to you.
- If it's not important to you that your child learn to be a productive member of society who can get along with others and make a difference in the world, don't order this book.
- If you don't believe that your child has the potential to change his behavior and be great, please don't buy this book.
What Makes This Manual Unique?
As I mentioned earlier, there are almost NO BOOKS on how to use behavior charts effectively in your home…
Are there books on behavior modification?
Yes.
And most of them are actually college textbooks that are 400-700 pages long, over $100.00, and filled with scientific theories and jargon that would make your head spin.
This manual, on the other hand, was created by me, an elementary school teacher, who found my way through the challenges of using behavior charts with my students and can now share my discoveries with you so that you don't have to make the same mistakes I did.
I would have LOVED to have come across a manual like this when I was first figuring out how to use behavior charts...
Because there wasn't one, I had to teach myself...
And now that I've figured out how to use behavior charts THE RIGHT WAY, I want to share what I've learned with you too.
While other books on parenting and discipline may suggest using a behavior chart to track new behaviors with your child, they don't tell you what to expect or avoid when you're doing that…
This manual, Behavior Charts To The Rescue is focused completely on the RIGHT things to do so that you can get the behavior charts to work (as well as the WRONG stuff that you're going to neeed to avoid.)
This means that your information won't be watered down by tons of other ideas and methods.
When I was creating this manual I wanted it to be easy to read, easy to understand, and full of ideas that are easy to implement. This manual is an INSTANT DOWNLOAD that you'll be able to start reading immediately after you order.
This manual will also give you the FULL PICTURE about what it takes to make behavior charts work in your home. You won't get just half the story and be left the lurch not knowing what to do next.
You’ll Also Get This Additional Bonus...
When you invest in this eBook right now, you'll also get a companion eBooklet that I've written to make getting good behavior from your kids even EASIER...
In this eBooklet “92 Ways To Encourage Your Kids To Behave Better” I give you the specific things you can say to your child to inspire them to make better choices with their behavior
This booklet will show you:
* How to be creative when you encourage your child instead of just repeating, "Good job!" "Good job!" "Good job!" like a broken record...
* 5 quick tips for making your praise even more powerful and meaningful
* 2 tricks you can do with your FACE when you're giving your child praise that will at least double the effectiveness of your words
* 5 fun things to do with your HANDS to let your child know that you're proud of him and are happy with his progress...
The techniques in this booklet are so powerful because when kids are changing their behavior, they need to be encouraged! They need to know that they're doing things that you like. It's critical that you learn how to do this properly - that's why this eBooklet is so important.
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Let's Wrap It Up...
There's no way that I would be telling you about this manual if I didn't give you the exact steps for using behavior charts the right way with your kids at home...
In fact, I haven't found a better resource than this one that has instructions for using behavior charts at home...
So here's a recap of what you're going to get...
1. "Behavior Charts To Rescue" - The how-to manual for using behavior charts (the RIGHT way) with your kids age 4-8 at home.
2. Bonus: "92 Ways To Encourage Better Behavior From Your Kids" a 13-page eBooklet with tips and ideas for helping you encourage your child to make better choices and stay out of trouble.
So let me ask you this: What if this knowledge in the manual helps you address just ONE of the challenging behaviors that you're dealing with from your child? Just ONE.
Or what if it helped you understand your child better so that you could PREVENT THE MISBEHAVIOR before it even became an issue in the first place?
What if there's even a chance that this book could actually teach you how to use behavior charts to bring about better behavior in your child?
What if you really CAN get your child to STOP doing those things that drive you crazy and stress you out? What if you really can have a more respectful child?
How much would that be worth to you? A thousand dollars? Five thousand? For most parents I know, it would be priceless.
Just the POSSIBILITY of having the ability to stop your child's disrespectful behavior (backtalk, whining, defiance) and change your child's bad attitude would be worth the investment.
The question is, are you ready to do something about it?
Aren't you tired of dealing with the same ol' frustrating behaviors from your child day after day?
Isn't it time to get this area of your life IN CONTROL and learn what works so that you can get on with the rest of your life and enjoy your kids and your family again?
I have one final thought to share with you…
After researching human behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very, very small chance that you're every going to do anything about it in the future…
And there's a very good chance that you'll be stuck dealing with the same behavior issues from your child for years to come…
Ugh!
The question is...are you finally ready to do something about it?
Don't Decide Now...
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I don't think I have to tell you HOW important it is that you get your child's behavior issues under control right away...
You're already well aware that it's having a damaging affect on your child's personality, your family life, your child's school performance, and even the relationship you're having with your spouse with all the arguments about disciplining...ugh.
But because I really need you to be sure you're ready to use behavior charts the RIGHT way...
I want to do something special for you...
I'M NOT GOING TO ASK YOU TO PAY FOR THE BOOK until you've had a chance to read it and see for yourself with your own eyes what it can do for you.
When you click on the button below, you'll be taken to a secure order page where you can download the book for FREE right now (just use a valid credit card for your order...you won't be charged for a full 7 days).
Read the book from cover to cover and you'll find strategies you can use RIGHT AWAY to start getting better behavior from your child. I promise.
Take 7 days to read the book and start applying the techniques you learn.
If, after you've read the book, you decide that it's not for you... or you didn't find any useful information in it for your situation, I'll trust you.
Simply reply to the email confirmation you'll receive when you download your copy of the book, write "cancel" in your message, and we won't charge your credit card at all.
I mean it.
If you'd like to keep the book, you don't need to do anything further. Your credit card will automatically be billed $19.97—but not before you've had a FULL 7 DAYS to use the materials.
Sound good?
I truly want to help you get the respect and good behavior you deserve from your child...and I want to show you how to do by using behavior charts the RIGHT WAY.
I get emails every day from parents who are using these materials to DRAMATICALLY improve their children's behavior, and I want to help you too.
Click on the button below to download Behavior Charts To The Rescue for your 7-day free trial and start learning the right way to use behavior charts with your kids at home:
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I'll talk to you again soon…
Your friend,
P.S. Sadly, many parents will continue raising their children without knowing how to use behavior charts THE RIGHT WAY. The wind up thinking their situation is hopelss. I don't want you to be one of them.
This manual will show you exactly how to use the behavior charts so that you have the best chance of successfully changing your child's behaviors from ones you don't like, to ones that you do like.
P.P.S. Every tip, strategy, and technique that I share with you in this
book is a PROVEN winner. I use every one of them personally in
real-world situations because they WORK...and I know that they can work for you, too.
Remember, you have a 100% satisfaction guarantee - if you're not
happy, YOU DON'T PAY. This is truly a 100% risk-free offer.
Quotes From Behavior Charts To The Rescue Readers...
"I just want to say already that I love your ideas and you have helped me begin to turn things around already. I look at things in another perspective and sometimes we just need someone to tell us something to realize things that we already know but forget in our busy stressful lives. Thanks again I feel like my days are getting better and better."
- C.H.
"Thank you so much for the wise and strategic ways of dealing with a child’s behavior. Thus far I have used one of your ideas with my misbehaving child, and it has yielded very good relations between us for the previous consecutive two weeks, something that was not happening for the past one and a half years since he started misbehaving. Thank you so much!!!"
- M.M.
"Thank you, Miss Mona for your encouraging, soul-inspiring words. I really appreciate the e-mails and resources I receive from you. Your ideas are so closely linked to my beliefs. Your advice this week has helped me to practically apply one of the principles in my own life with my beautiful children who truly only deserve praise, encouragement and positive comments from me. Have a wonderful day!"
- N.F.
"Just reading your email has calmed me down. I thought I was the only parent going through this! With 3 boys running around, it's very stressful so I thank you for the advice."
- L.M.
"Thank you so much. I have read most of your book and am very excited. We have 7 children, and thought at this point I might have this stuff down, but our 5 year old twins are giving us a run for our money. Thank you for your help."
- W.C.
"I enjoyed our discussion about [behavior] charts and how to use them for my youngest son, Sean. We've been using a chart with 5 connect the dots. He has completed about 3 charts and the results are great! The whining has almost completely disappeared. Only a few times, usually when he's tired, do I have to remind him. Thanks so much!!"
- D.F.
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